A Barometer for Normalcy

I wonder what my life would be like if I believed that I was my own barometer for normalcy.  That every choice I made and every action I took was, in my conscience, the perfect action and decision for me.  If the invisible woman whose terms I stand by and whose shoes I walk in, all this time was me.  How do I invite self-improvement and self-acceptance into my life?  Can the two even exist?  It seems so contradictory.  There has to be a balance.  In the mean time, I'm focusing on self acceptance-that will be my self-improvement.